Hey, running a Fedi instance is not easy. Since the last time I posted here, I've seen plenty of instances shut down. It can be easy to take these spaces for granted. They're not.

Having to handle an online community that's going to be federated with a whole bunch of others is hard and ungrateful work. You always have to handle conflict, knowing that you may leave people unhappy, and most of your users will never know about half of the shit you've protected them from.

Many try with the best of intentions and leave completely burnt out. It shouldn't be that way, but alas, it often is. lgbtqia.space is still standing. Let's all enjoy this space while it lasts, for all things must one day end. I can only hope that it won't end the way so many other instances did.

And if you're a former moderator of an instance that shutdown... this might be a painful post to read. I'm sorry. For what it's worth, you did your best. Your regrets, your mistakes, they don't take away from that. It's not easy.

#lgbtqiaspace #fedi #fediverse #fedimeta

This is gonna sound like a call out post, and... No, it really isn't. I'm not calling out anyone in particular. I've just seen it one too many times. The straw, the camel's back, yadiyada.

My cis dudes. I love you. I really do. But I'm tired of you going under women's post expressing their grievances about men, to explain how ashamed you are of other men. It's... It's tiring. Like, it's really fucking tiring. Because you don't realize that every time we make such a post there is at least one or two of you. Every time.

We don't care about you being not like the other guys. Yes, sure, are one of the good ones, whatever. Good boy and all that. But when you do this, not only do you not contribute anything to the discussion, you're actually adding to the problem. It's adding emotional labour to the women trying to explain themselves when really you should just stay quiet and listen.

Give a like. Boost the post, even. But you don't need to say anything, not to us. Call out other men in the responses that are probably trying to argue and ending up exactly proving her point. Do better, instead of saying that you already are.

#fedi #men #women